Getting Your Kids To Get Along
I am very excited to announce we have a guest blogger today – Amanda (of Growing Up Madison) is here to offer us some parenting advice for how to get your kids to get along. I absolutely love visiting Amanda, Madison, and the rest of her crew because I learn so much when I’m on their site. I find myself pinning many, if not all, of the parenting posts. Without further ado, allow me to introduce you…
Hi everyone, it’s a privilege to guest post today on Ruffles and Rain Boots. I met Sarah through another blog that I frequently visit and I just fell in love with her crafts. You might see me commenting and often times pinning because I can’t get enough of her work. Now here’s a bit about me. Most know me as Amanda or Madison’s mom and I blog over at Growing Up Madison, you know, the blog that totally belongs to the precocious 3 year old. We do a lot of parenting tips, a few crafts and recipes and a lot of children reviews and giveaways. As a mother of 4 children, ages 18, 14, 10 and 3 I can certainly relate to the topic I want to talk to you about today. “Getting your kids to get along”.
Let’s face it… Siblings will fight with each other and I can testify to that as I have witnessed these fights first hand. No matter how close or far apart your children are in age, there’s something special about siblings that cause shouting and hitting to be the norm. If you feel like you’re about to pull your hair out over your fighting kids, here are some tips you can use to help get your kids to get along.
Set Some Boundaries
No matter how hard you try, you won’t be able to get your children to stop fighting completely. You can, however, minimize the amount of fighting that they do, so don’t be afraid to set some boundaries. A little bit of bickering is pretty normal, but make sure you set some rules to prevent your children from saying hurtful things or calling names. Once your children cross these boundaries, you’ll need to have some consequences in place so they learn that the boundaries shouldn’t be messed with!
Give Them Their Own Space
Sometimes fighting siblings just need a little alone time. To help get your kids to get along, make sure each child has a “me” space that they can go to for some peace and quiet. Bedrooms are definitely perfect for this, but you’ll need to think of something else if your children share rooms. If this is the case, then you can dedicate a corner in an office or a space in the basement to each child. Once your children get a little space, they’ll get along much better with each other.
Give Them a Chance to Bond
Although you can’t force your children into becoming best friends, you can give them opportunities to bond and develop their relationship. A great way to do this is to find activities that your children have in common. This is easier with younger children since playing with toys is a favorite pastime, but if you have older children, this can be a little tricky. If your children don’t have much in common, then you can give them a chance to bond during whole family activities, such as a day bowling or mini-golfing.
Make a Fighting Jar
When the fighting gets to be too much for you, you can take advantage of the Fighting Jar. To do this, find a jar or cup that you don’t use. You’ll then write different chores on pieces of paper or on popsicle sticks. Each time your children take the fighting too far, have them pull a chore out of the fighting jar. They will then need to complete this chore together without any fighting! If they continue to fight, then they’ll need to pull another chore out of the Fighting Jar. Not only does this keep your house sparkling clean, it also forces your children to get along long enough to cooperate on a common goal.
What are some of your best tips for getting your kids to get along?
Is anyone else loving the idea of having the squabbling kids complete a task together? That might become one of the most valuable tactics in any parent’s arsenal!
Many thanks to Amanda for sharing these tips learned from nearly two decades of parenting. Be sure to visit the whole family over at Growing Up Madison – you might enter to win a great kid’s giveaway, find a kid-friendly recipe or two, or just fall in love with the adorable, precocious little Madison herself.